Infidelity

[nemelek]

18 years ago I was involved in what I thought was a very deep and mutual relationship. There were a few things didn't add up. She had a few emontional problems and I dismissed her behavior. What she said and what she did didn't match up. Every month or so she needed time to herself. Finally I stalked her. I know it was wrong, however I am glad I did because I found out the truth. She had an old boyfriend from another city visit her. It hurt my pride but it finally explained everything that didn't add up and I left her shortly thereafter.

I have been involved in 3 relationships afterwards and have never felt the need to not trust the person I was with. Although spying on another could be wrong, if you got that gut feeling and you are usually not the jealous type I would find a was to check her/him out. Use other friends and don't get caught if you are wrong. I always like that TV show Cheaters.

The truth sometimes hurts but the truth will also set you free.

[frownonfun]

Originally Posted by nemelek

18 years ago I was involved in what I thought was a very deep and mutual relationship. There were a few things didn't add up. She had a few emontional problems and I dismissed her behavior. What she said and what she did didn't match up. Every month or so she needed time to herself. Finally I stalked her. I know it was wrong, however I am glad I did because I found out the truth. She had an old boyfriend from another city visit her. It hurt my pride but it finally explained everything that didn't add up and I left her shortly thereafter.

I have been involved in 3 relationships afterwards and have never felt the need to not trust the person I was with. Although spying on another could be wrong, if you got that gut feeling and you are usually not the jealous type I would find a was to check her/him out. Use other friends and don't get caught if you are wrong. I always like that TV show Cheaters.

The truth sometimes hurts but the truth will also set you free.

hmm personally i think if you are feeling an overwhelming need to stalk or spy or check up on your partner than you should probably just skip all the drama and walk away. trust your instincts. they are probably right so, if you can, do what GeneW said and gracefully disengage. even if they aren't cheating, which they probably are, you still don't trust them and there is no reason to be with someone you don't trust.