Does my son deserve a Yaris?

[RedRide]

Why do so many parents fear that their children will hate them when all they are trying to do is to be a good parent? Some of these children need a swift kick in the ass... IMO!
A given child might not hate you if you buy him a car but, perhaps they wont respect you (as a parent) either.

Personally, I worked part time when still in jr high school and saved to buy my first (used) car and and no one handed me anything. My parents could have bought me a car but, they wanted me to learn a vauable lenson and realize that I, alone was responsible for my own finances in life. To this day, I thank them for that.

If he really can't work and you can wll afford it, then perhaps buying him a car is not out of line.
Bottom line, only you know the full extent of your situation.

[J.J. Jefferson]

Originally Posted by RedRide

Why do so many parents fear that their children will hate them when all they are trying to do is to be a good parent? Some of these children need a swift kick in the ass... IMO!
He might not hate you if you buy him a car but, perhaps he wont respect you (as a parent) either.

Personally, I worked part time when still in jr high school and saved to buy my first (used) car and and no one handed me anything. My parents could have bought me a car but, they wanted me to learn a vauable lenson and realize that I, alone was responsible for my own finances in life. To this day, I thank them for that.

He already doesn't respect me or my wife Bess. He uses foul language, yells at us, etc. I threatened to give him a real grown up a** whoopin one day and the threatened to call the police and then sue me for any damages! I know how it seems but I just think he may be a troubled kid. I know that since I had to go out of work on disability, the one thing that has given me as much happiness is my new Yaris. As for finances, once his settlement is awarded he will probably never need to work for several years. He has assured me that he is going to college though. Thanks for your input on this matter. I may just decide to give him that grown up a** whoopin if he keeps up his antics.
Jeff

[H3LlIoN]

Originally Posted by J.J. Jefferson

He already doesn't respect me or my wife Bess. He uses foul language, yells at us, etc. I threatened to give him a real grown up a** whoopin one day and the threatened to call the police and then sue me for any damages! I know how it seems but I just think he may be a troubled kid. I know that since I had to go out of work on disability, the one thing that has given me as much happiness is my new Yaris. As for finances, once his settlement is awarded he will probably never need to work for several years. He has assured me that he is going to college though. Thanks for your input on this matter. I may just decide to give him that grown up a** whoopin if he keeps up his antics.
Jeff

And you're contemplating buying him a car? It's people like your son that ARE the reason I pay so many goddamned taxes. It sounds to me like that giant settlement he's getting for slipping on a wet floor [while intoxicated] should go to his college and living situation. The ONLY thing he deserves is a swift kick in the ass to get him moving. Otherwise, he's going to live in your house, blow the settlement on money and drugs, then limp along in college until he inevitable fails out. Good job, pop.

[J.J. Jefferson]

Originally Posted by H3LlIoN

And you're contemplating buying him a car? It's people like your son that ARE the reason I pay so many goddamned taxes. It sounds to me like that giant settlement he's getting for slipping on a wet floor [while intoxicated] should go to his college and living situation. The ONLY thing he deserves is a swift kick in the ass to get him moving. Otherwise, he's going to live in your house, blow the settlement on money and drugs, then limp along in college until he inevitable fails out. Good job, pop.

Sir I respect your opinion but I do not see how my parenting skills are lacking in any way. I show nothing but love and respect for my son as an equal because he is a human being. He is going to go to a good school (either USC or UC Berkley) and hopefully mature. I have threatened him with a kick in the a** before but that would send me to jail. It is a catch 22.